Integration, belonging and dreaming
Three topics about integration!
The integration into a new country is not knowing how to dance and sing your folk songs. But to have respect for what was built, to learn how to love or to like the things that make up the local life and get connected with people who already live in that place the longest you are the key to good integration.
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In fact, this word is not used in vain. Integration refers to belonging. To integrate is to be part of the community, to belong to it, to feel belonging. Of course, this will have a slightly different content because the values are a bit different, but, belonging is feeling at home, feeling like an equal, as a part of the structure.
This sense of belonging, this process of integration can be facilitated by three behaviors, three positions in front of life:
1 – Knowing
A new country offers countless new possibilities. Some already known, some unknown. In order to make a good adaptation, it is necessary to know what possibilities are these:
New people, new places, new jobs, new languages, new places, new foods, new routines, transports, smells, holidays, parties, beaches, plants, schools …
From the moment you land on, you must be prepared to see, to hear, and to experience the new possibilities, almost like a child who begins to experience and know the things that life offers.
An example. The escalators in Brazil we occupy the escalator and hopefully, it will take us up or down. Around here, whoever who is going to stand and wait for the escalator to do its work stays on the right side of it. But, that ones which would like to complement the work of the escalator, stepping up or down while it works, goes through on the left side. This knowledge is excellent and guarantees that you do not listen to a nuisance at the central station and at the airport.
Many of these good things will be different, some will be difficult, some will be insensitive, but most of it will have to be well known, well learned, and especially accepted.
2 – Accept
If you are an immigrant, like me, the second step to good integration is acceptance.
Accept what was left behind, accept what comes again, accept difficulties as challenges, accept the changes of values and behaviors that need to be done in the new world.
Immigration is a process of “call”. Whether it is in the name of love for a new person, whether due to difficulties in the country of origin or dreams of the new land, immigrating is a call to a new life. For this, a new way of living needs to be developed.
A simple example: As a Brazilian, he was used to eating black beans almost every day at lunch. Here, beans are easy to find, but cooking beans and preparing it for lunch every day is difficult. So it came to be present only one day a week.
In this change, we lose weight, strength and you need to find other substitutes easier for the day by day.
You have to accept that the little beans of every day are behind in the past, you have to accept the substitute, even if it is not so good. If there is no acceptance of the change, the lack of beans will generate suffering and dissatisfaction.
3 – Understand
We have learned in life that everything has a historical and cultural value. By understanding where the customs, behaviors, and values come from, you can help develop empathy for them and for the people with which you want or need to integrate. This helps to realize that despite the distance, in the end, all peoples are in the same battle: fleeing misery and pain.
Some countries are more accurately in this survival battle, and therefore live a life of more quality and stability. Normally, people immigrate in the direction of countries that have achieved this better form this point of separation from death and hunger. So, they end up having quite different values and behaviors, because the search of the people that compose that country happens to be a different search.
An example: In the struggle for daily bread in a country where everything needs to be built, we end up using everything, pushing it, throwing it on the ground, assault, small blows and tricks, and every business attempt ends up being valid.
When you arrive in a country where everything is ready, everything has already been built, things only need to be maintained. As people know the work they have done to build, achieve and reach this level, preserving, caring and maintaining are verbs that need to be combined with a lot of whimsy and talent.
This may sound silly, but that means that for all work tasks, you will need qualification and good pay. From the janitor to the mason, from the painter to the doorman, everyone has professional training and a living wage (or should have).